Monday, 4 February 2013

5 Guys You Should Never Date


If you find yourself having a series of bad luck with men, don't blame your luck just yet -- you've probably been getting into a relationship with the wrong guy. Spare yourself the potential heartache: Lisa Helmanis identifies five "bad-news boys" you should never get involved with.

1. The married man
It's obvious why dating married men is a bad idea. Falling in love with a guy who already belongs to someone else entails countless painful sacrifices on your part. You cannot have him all for yourself, you have to keep your affair a secret, you can't be seen together in public, and he can only call you when he can find the time away from his family and friends. Not to mention all the potential stigmas that could plague you if your relationship is exposed. And from the moral point of view, extramarital affair is wrong.

2. The dominator
This guy takes an interest in everything you do, from the way you dress, who's in your phone list, the way you arrange your room to how your friends treat you. At first it may feel wonderful to have this attentive man who genuinely cares about what's going on in your life, "but pretty soon he is telling you how to look, what to wear and what to eat for breakfast. 
A control freak can be extremely charming in a new relationship, but once he feels secure he starts to become pushy and controlling. Being a control freak is not about love, although he'll tell you it is. It’s about power, you should leave the relationship before your confidence does.
3. The broken heart
He's the guy who seems so sensitive and caring when you first meet and tells you the heart-wrenching story of his past broken relationship. And soon you'll find out that he's still nursing a broken heart from the relationship he had with someone ten years ago. 
Basically, you're transitional woman in a nurse's uniform. Face it, if he lives in a haze of self-indulgent gloom and loves the drama of his own misery, you'll never get through no matter how much time you spend trying to mend his broken heart. So give up and get going.

4. The smoothie
He's suave, sports designer suits, has a glitzy social life, owns an expensive apartment and zips around town in a flashy convertible. He loves lavishing women with lots of attention, and has you feeling like a princess with his constant showers of gifts, flowers and exotic dinners.
Problem is, you may not be the only chick in this Casanova's life. Men like that are very likely to be a misogynist. He can't see past the skirt to one special individual.

5. The drain
You'll recognize a Drain because this guy constantly saps you -- emotionally, financially and/or physically. He hates his life, can't stop complaining about his job, blames everyone else for his own laziness, and essentially relies on you to bolster his poor self-image. 
Guys like that are really nothing more than selfish, spoiled whiners who don't understand the concept of responsibility or self-respect; they 
lose their temper over nothing and use you as an emotional punchbag. Get them out of your life and lock the doors.

19 comments:

  1. Nice one.true talk. Keep it up.

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  2. Well said..believe me when I say these men have the best of women..how the do it,I do not know..wakeup women

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    1. Sometimes it seems that the bad guys date the good girls but it's all about wrong choices on the part of women. They really have to wake up.

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  3. So who we go come date naaa?dats about all d type of men that exist..na wa

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    1. It takes the Grace of God to avoid the wrong choices.

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  4. Mine doesn't have any of these traits,in fact he's too perfect and behaves far more matured,but the probs now is that he's 37,graduated since 5years ago and no job and am just 25 a,av tried everytin I could for him to help him get one to no avail,though he's doing some manual job bt is not helping at all,but I really need to be financially secured,so am contemplating if I should leave him and move on and get a financially capable guy or I should wait a little more n be patient...*am just confuse*+hes not growing younger.37...*sigh* but he's a good man...

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    1. Hi, your guy may have had challenges growing up which obviously contributed to the delays he is experiencing in life. But 5 years is too long to still be looking for a job, probably he is being too choosy. He might have to start doing something for himself, he doesn't have to start big. But you need to know that while money is (very) important in marriage, the emphasis should not be on it. The most important thing in marriage is your happiness which it seems he can give you, so you may have to consider giving him 1 or 2 more years especially if he is really into you. Marriage should be enjoyed and not endured. Wish you God's grace.

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  5. Chidozie i love patronizing your blog. God bless you . I am a single parent. Afraid of marriage . I dont want failed marriage. I dont want marriage in which after many years, love will be a history. My worst fear is a cheating husband . I dont want to have a cheat as a husband. I have had suitors but all of them lacked strong moral principle. They exhibited cheating tendencies. I am very emotional, soft hearted and cant stay with a cheating husband. I pray God sees me through.

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    1. Hi, I understand where you are coming from. Being a single parent, you may have had a terrible experience in the hands of a man. But there is no point being afraid of marriage or a cheating husband because marriage is a noble thing and not all men are cheats. All you need do is sincerely ask God for the gift of a man who can faithfully take care of your emotions. But ultimately, while it may be better to be single than to suffer in marriage, you should also know that being a single parent has it's own challenges. The Lord is your strength.

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  6. Hmmm nice write up. I don't even know where to start. I've never really have a serious relationship. I'm begining to lose self confidence and I'm 22, I'm tired and I'm a tomboy. I have met a couple of guys but they aren't serious its like those are the types I attract. I don't even know what being in a relationship looks and feels like anymore. :( HELP!!!

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    1. Hello, you're 22 and are already beginning to lose your self confidence. Perhaps you should take a break from relationships especially if they are not working for you and face your studies (I guess you're a student). At the right time, the right guy will find you.

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    2. I'm actually a graduate, and I'm done with NYSC. :)

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    3. Pls chill... U'll soon meet him.. But pls be careful.. Segun.

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  7. then get a job!

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  8. Hmmm, really interesting blog. Weldone bro. God will increase you more in wisdom n knowledge in Jesus name,amen.
    BrendaN

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    1. Thanks Brenda and please do continue to stop by.

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