Sunday, 20 January 2013

Why Some Men Behave Like Drama Queen

This is a sequel to "Men who Behave Like Drama Queen". Experts have attempted to offer some explanations as to why men have suddenly taken to the drama queen pattern. They include:

Born like that
Psychiatrist and psychotherapist Anjali Chhabria says it could be something to do with his personality. "We come across more and more men with narcissistic, histrionic and dependent personalities. That will reflect in the manner they behave in."

Family matters
It depends on how one's family deals with situations. Someone who has seen a lot of drama in his family during his growing-up years will pick that up. Like Hasan says, "They may have seen parents or siblings behave in this manner and get attention."

Hungry for attention
Sometimes, he may not love the drama as much as the attention it brings. Hasan explains, "They may get their way out with this kind of behaviour. It is rewarding for the person — he gets attention and also gets what he wants. Many women like men who are 'dramatic' as they find them emotional and sensitive. Some men are addicted to being dramatic just because they're addicted to attention as well."

Unaware or insecure?
Some men probably don't realise how overtly dramatic they can get. Also, there are those who turn dramatic because of insecurity in relationships. Chhabria says, "A dependent personality involves a strong sense of attachment. Such individuals need constant support and reassurance from the people they are close to, especially their partners. They tend to be overly sensitive and insecure about losing their loved ones. This makes them go all out for their partner and they expect the same in return."

Dealing with a drama queen
It's best not to assume too much when with a drama queen. Also, be calm when dealing with their mood swings. Says psychologist Chandni Mehta, "Explaining how immature their behaviour is, and exercising patience and calm, are ways to deal with them. Maintaining a distance is another mature approach. Fighting back may work, but it can also worsen the situation." Try to be self-aware and avoid any created drama. Also, let go if you love the person. Chhabria says, "Women should let such men express themselves freely and they should stand by them, rather than reject them."

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